{"id":126,"date":"2011-04-25T04:36:07","date_gmt":"2011-04-24T20:36:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/studentaffairs.utm.my\/counselling-centre\/?p=126"},"modified":"2018-01-07T10:10:31","modified_gmt":"2018-01-07T02:10:31","slug":"20-tips-on-how-to-stop-worrying","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/studentaffairs.utm.my\/counsellingcentre\/20-tips-on-how-to-stop-worrying\/","title":{"rendered":"20 Tips on How to Stop Worrying"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Dale Carnegie wrote one of his books to show that life is very much what we make of it. It\u2019s all about our choices everyday. Here are some quotes from Carnegie:<\/p>\n

1. \u201d If you have a worry problem, do these three things: 1. Ask yourself: \u201cWhat is the worst that can possibly happen?\u201d 2. Prepare to accept it if you have to. 3. Them calmly proceed to improve on the worst.\u201d (Carnegie 49)<\/p>\n

2.\u00a0 \u201d Why does such a simple thing as keeping busy help to drive out anxiety? Because of a law- one of the most fundamental laws ever revealed by psychology. And that law is: that is utterly impossible for any human mind, no matter how brilliant, to think of more than one thing at any given time.\u201d (Carnegie 50)<\/p>\n

3. \u201cOur fatigue is often caused not by work, but by worry, frustration and resentment.\u201d (Carnegie 53)<\/p>\n

4. \u201cAll the King\u2019s horses and all the king\u2019s men can\u2019t put the past back together again. So let\u2019s remember: Don\u2019t try to saw sawdust.\u201d (Carnegie 54)<\/p>\n

5. \u201cDon\u2019t fuss about trifles. Don\u2019t permit little things- the mere termites of life- to ruin your happiness.\u201d (Carnegie 59)<\/p>\n

6. \u201cPut a \u2018stop-loss\u2019 order on your worries. Decide just how much anxiety a thing may be worth- and refuse to give it any more.\u201d (Carnegie 58)<\/p>\n

7. \u201d Use the law of averages to outlaw your worries. Ask yourself: \u2018What are the odds against this thing\u2019s happening at all?\u201d (Carnegie 60)<\/p>\n

8. \u201cGet the facts. Let\u2019s not even attempt to solve our problems without first collecting all the facts in an impartial manner.\u201d (Carnegie 63)<\/p>\n

9. \u201cA well-known legal maxis says: D minimis non curat lex- \u2018The law does not concern itself with trifles.\u2019 And neither should the worrier-if he wants piece of mind.\u201d (Carnegie 62)<\/p>\n

10. \u201cWhen we have accepted the worst, we have nothing more to lose. And that automatically means- we have everything to gain!\u201d (Carnegie 64)<\/p>\n

11. \u201cDo you remember the things you were worrying about a year ago? How did they work out? Didn\u2019t you waste a lot of fruitless energy on account of most of them? Didn\u2019t most of them turn out all right after all?\u201d (Carnegie 65)<\/p>\n

12. \u201cIf you were to read everything that has ever been written about worry by the great philosophers of the universe, you would never read anything more profound than \u2018Don\u2019t cross your bridges until you come to them\u2019 and \u2018Don\u2019t cry over spilt milk.\u201d (Carnegie 67)<\/p>\n

13. \u201cIf you have worries, there is no better way to eliminate them than by walking them off. Just take them out for a walk. They may take wings and fly away!\u201d (Carnegie 68)<\/p>\n

14. \u201cIf you can\u2019t sleep, then get up and do something instead of lying there and worrying. It\u2019s the worry that gets you, not the sleep.\u201d (Carnegie 70)<\/p>\n

15. \u201cGive your problem all the thought you possibly can before a solution is reached. But when the matter is settled and over with, worry not at all.\u201d (Carnegie 71)<\/p>\n

16. \u201cIf we can\u2019t have all we want, let\u2019s not poison our days with worry and resentment. Let\u2019s be good to ourselves. Let\u2019s be philosophical. And philosophy, according to Epictetus, boils down to this: \u2018 The essence of\u00a0 philosophy is that a man should so live that his happiness shall depend as little as possible on external things.\u2019\u201d (Carnegie 76)<\/p>\n

17. \u201cPut a BIG, broad, honest-to-God smile on your face; throw back your shoulders; take a good, deep breath; and sing a snatch of a song. If you can\u2019t sing whistle. If you can\u2019t whistle, hum. You will quickly discover that it is physically impossible to remain blue or depressed while you are acting out the symptoms of being radiantly happy!\u201d (Carnegie 56)<\/p>\n

18. \u201cWhen we hate our enemies, we are giving them power over us: power over our sleep, our appetites, our blood pressure, our health, and our happiness. Our enemies would dance with joy if only they knew how they were worrying us, lacerating us, and getting even with us! Our hate is not hurting them at all, but our hate is turning our own days and nights into a hellish turmoil.\u201d (Carnegie 55)<\/p>\n

19. \u201cAbout ninety percent of the things in our lives are right and about ten percent are wrong. If we want to be happy, all we have to do is to concentrate on the ninety percent that are right and ignore the ten percent that are wrong. If we want to be worried and bitter and have stomach ulcers, all we have to do is to concentrate on the ten percent that are wrong and ignore the ninety percent that are glorious.\u201d (Carnegie 52)<\/p>\n

20. \u201cIf you and I don\u2019t keep busy- if we sit around and brood- we will hatch out a whole flock of what Charles Darwin used to call the \u2018wibber-gibbers.\u2019 And the \u2018wibber gibbers\u2019 are not but old-fashioned gremlines that will run us hollow and destroy our power of action and our power of will.\u201d (Carnegie 51)<\/p>\n

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